CornerStone Blog

Month: May 2020

Staying Resilient in the Face of Uncertainty

In only a few weeks, it seems that life has been completely turned on its head. Staying resilient in the face of uncertainty is more important than ever.  Routines have been disrupted, events have been cancelled, work may be on hold, and there is so much uncertainty surrounding how much longer this will continue. In situations like this, how are we able to bounce back and maintain some semblance of normalcy? For some, resilience may be a natural strength in someone’s character; however, if you find that you struggle to keep moving forward with positivity, here are some things you might try to practice.

Look on the bright side of life.

There are so many benefits to practicing optimism including greater physical health, boosted immunity, better ability to handle stressful situations. It is easy to think of optimism as being ignorant of the realities of a situation and only seeing the good in everything; however this belief is not entirely accurate. It is entirely possible to be aware of a situation and still consider things optimistically. Be hopeful for the future and this will help you stay resilient; this time will pass and we shall all be stronger for it.

Understand your sphere of control.

In our current situation specifically, there are many variables that we have absolutely no control over which can be extremely disheartening, stressful, and perhaps maddening. To take a more optimistic approach, you may consider categorizing those things over which you have no control, some control, and absolute control. Your energy is precious and does not deserve to be wasted upon things that you have no control over; acknowledge those things and accept them for what they are. Then, devote your energy to those things that you have total control over. An exercise you may try is to fill in the graph below with all of the possibilities you can think of, graciously accept what is outside of your control, then make an action plan for devoting your energies for what lies in the two inner circles.

Put a new frame on that picture.

What is a better way of looking at this negative situation? Re-framing something negative into a positive is a powerful way to boost your resilience. Perhaps instead of thinking that you are stuck at home, you may re-frame it by saying that you are safe at home with your loved ones.

Practice gratitude.

How many times have we heard “count your blessings”? This common adage can easily go by the wayside. But, it is a wonderful way to stay grounded when it is so easy to fall into negative thinking. Think of three things that you are thankful for, and either begin or end your day with these reflections. Up for a challenge? Look at a negative situation and try to find the blessing within it.  Gratitude is an extremely important component of staying resilient.

Uncertainty and the emotions that it brings can be very difficult to combat, but stay positive throughout this situation. Know that you are not in this alone, and also know that it is okay to not be okay. Hug your loved ones tight, reach out if you need some help, and know that this too shall pass. Cornerstone is a community and we are here for you in this time; always feel free to reach out for help or if you need someone to talk to. We shall get through this together.

~Katie Conn, Wellness Coach

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The Time for Self-Care is NOW!

The time for self-care is now.  Yes, now! Especially now!! Over the past months, all of us have experienced so much change.  While change is clearly a part of life, frequent and radical change can be very disjointing – to say the least. Massive change can make people feel overwhelmed, frustrated and even anxious at times.  It is during times like these that practicing self-care is absolutely essential. When we are able to care for ourselves, we are better prepared to take care of others and to deal with situations as they arise.

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Self-care is a buzzword we have all heard about, but what is it really? And, how do we even start? In short, self-care is deliberately taking control of your health. It is a plan you make to take care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. Self-care is the key to a balanced life. While it will look a little different for each person, practicing a few things from each self-care category will help you feel ready to tackle the day. Practice self-care daily so taking care of you becomes routine.

Physical Self-Care

This means taking care of your body through an activity you enjoy (any activity that improves the physical health of your body).
– nourish your body
– get moving- exercise, stretch
– drink more water
– get enough sleep

Emotional Self-Care

It is important to become more in tune with your emotions.   Choose activities that help you process and reflect on your emotions, to work through them and not keep them bottled up inside.
– set boundaries (be able to say no).
– practice meditation/mindfulness
– journal thoughts and feelings
– be creative (paint, cook, play music, etc)

Spiritual Self-Care

Nourish your soul and strive for inner peace.  Seek a purpose. Select activities that allows you to think bigger than yourself- this does not have to be religious, although for some it is.
– pray/say intentions
– yoga
– write a graditude journal
– spend time with nature
– donate to a charity

Social Self-Care

Connect with others using any activity that strengthens relationship with others.
– spend time with loved ones
– reconnect with an old friend
– join a class or group to meet new people
– use social media wisely

Intellectual/Mental Self-Care

Challenge your mind, expand your knowledge and stimulates your intellect.
– read a book/
– learn a new skill
– unplug/ device free time
– complete projects


Complete the core aspects of your life. Choose activities that prevents future stressful situations.
– know your worth
– work/life balance
– continue to grow and develop
– create a budget

Practice self-care daily so that taking care of YOU becomes a routine. Be intentional. Make the time and the effort. Invest in your health. Be the best you that you can be! And, remember… taking time for you is not selfish. It is preparing you to be your best!

~ Kristen Fredericks, Wellness Coach

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